In a previous post, I discussed the power of positivity. The best way to have a great and fulfilling life is to stay positive. But one way to keep up the positivity is to surround yourself with happy, positive and loving people. Unfortunately, there are many people in this world who do not subscribe to the idea of being happy, loving and positive – I call them toxic people. These people are emotionally draining, stressful people and can get in the way of your goals and happiness.
What are toxic people?
Toxic people are those in your life that keep you from being the best version of yourself. Have you ever noticed that there are just some people in your life who seem to always hold you back from achieving your goals or those who seem to always have a negative attitude? Think about it – there just may be someone like that in your own life. There are different kinds of people who could be bringing unwanted negative energy into your life on a regular basis. In order to have a happy life and be the best version of yourself, toxic people need to be removed immediately.
Here are some examples of toxic personalities:
- Addictive: People who are addicted to drugs, alcohol, watching TV, playing video games, gambling, etc.
- Negative: These are “glass half empty” kinds of people. They can never see the positive of any situation or complain too much about minor inconveniences.
- Angry: These kinds of people always have to argue about something. They always seem to be upset about something and are never happy with a situation.
- Judgmental: Closely related to gossipers, judgmental people always have something to say about someone. Instead of focusing on their own problems and situations, the judgmental will constantly focus on others’ lives.
- Abusive: A particularly dangerous personality, abusive people need to be avoided like the plague. There are many subcategories of abusive people – emotional, physical, mental, overly-clingy, obsessive, users, manipulators, etc.
- Depressing: Related to negative personalities, but these people are serious downers. They are extremely indecisive and can never find anything that makes them happy.
- Liars: These kinds of people don’t need a description.
There are many other types of toxic personalities, but these are just a few that come to mind and the ones I’ve had most experience with – especially the manipulative/liar/mental/emotional abusive type.
Who are toxic people?
Toxic people come in all forms. They can be your co-workers, your close friends, your family or your significant other. It’s difficult to point at someone you love and consider them to be “toxic,” but you should recognize the negative personalities in your life in order to remove them.
How should you deal with toxic people?
The absolute best way to deal with these kinds of people is to remove them completely from your life. I am a realist and understand that this may not be the easiest thing to do in many situations. If the negative person in your life is your boss, you can’t just ignore him or her, but you can do your best to limit contact with this person as much as possible. If it’s a close friend, you can easily limit time or cut off communication with him or her. If it’s a significant other (this is the most difficult), you should have a talk with them first in order to hash out any concerns you have about his or her negativity. If worst comes to worst, then a break-up or divorce may be the best solution.
It will be extremely difficult to remove certain people from your life because you may be emotionally attached to them like a significant other, a sibling, a parent or other family member. I have recently gone through this situation in my own life. It hurts. It seems like my mind is consumed with thoughts of this person, but I know my life is better without this person. I was abused, both mentally and emotionally, for years and I refused to acknowledge what was happening to me. I was manipulated to do many things and refused to realize that this person was using me for their own personal and professional benefit. Because of this person, I was held back from my own personal and professional growth. I lost the future I was planning, and I even lost my job because of this person’s actions and words. Removing toxic people like this is for the best, no matter how much it may hurt. I hate to be cliché, but it’s best to rip it off like a bandage and cut off the person.
Stay positive and give thanks!
The thing that keeps me positive is the fact that I know that my life is now much better (and getting even better). I have a new job that pays me much more than I could have ever imagined. I look at my paycheck and just laugh with joy. I’m debt-free now – aside from my car payment, but I did just purchase a brand new car a few months ago. Most people around me are positive and happy, which inspires me to keep going because I know they keep a smile on my face. My life is turning around much faster than I expected it to and I am extremely grateful for that. In a weird way, I’m grateful for being hurt by this negative person that I cut out of my life. So, THANK YOU! 🙂
Do you want to be happy? Get rid of toxic people, you will thank yourself. Save yourself a lifetime of pain and negativity. Once you do have positive people in your life, don’t forget to thank the universe (or God or whatever you believe in) for putting such great people in your presence.
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